There’s a general misconception that men are only aroused by what they see. But, do you know that there are certain hot spots on your man’s body that you can explore? Here are 10 erogenous spots that’ll get him aroused and craving you more!
Before you say, “Can’t I just touch anywhere on his body? Wouldn’t that do the trick?” No! there are some specific areas that are more sensitive than others. So, when next you get down to business, take note of the following. According to the cosmopolitan, here are 10 sensual zones experts recommend that you pay extra attention to.
1. His hair
First of the 10 erogenous spots to touch on your man is his hair. According to Tammy Nelson, PhD, sex and relationship therapist, “Men have nerve endings on their scalp that are attached to the rest of their body, and when their hair is gently pulled when they are kissed or held, it sends stimulation to the rest of their body”, he says. You know how good it feels when someone plays with your hair? Well, same thing for men!
While kissing, try running the tips of your fingers through his hair, over his scalp gently, then a bit harder with a tug. “If he reacts with small sounds and pleasure moans, pull harder, then let go before he wants you to,” says Nelson. This playful tease with drive him legit cray.
2. His feet
Second on the list of the 10 erogenous spots to touch is his feet. Besides just feeling good, there’s a reason why reflexology massages are so popular. “There are so many nerve endings in the feet,” says sex therapist Rhoda Lipscomb, PhD—which makes for a great area to stimulate.
Try this: Don’t worry, you don’t have to be a foot fetishist to ace this. “Start by using some massage oil and massaging his feet—especially the arch of the foot,” says Lipscomb. If you want to add some tongue and kisses to the mix, do it. Then switch positions and make it your turn.
3. His inner thighs
Eboni Harris, a relationship therapist, says that since the inner thigh is so close to the penis, “even without the sensation of touch, just being in that area is sure to get him anticipating what’s next.”
Harris suggests taking your time to kiss and lick his inner thigh before going to touch his penis when performing oral. Tease him and experiment with your lips. You can go from light fluttering kisses to harder sucking.
4. His lower lip
You know that spot between your lower lip and your chin where you usually break out? Yeah, the one that one hair always sprouts out of? That’s an erogenous zone! Lou Paget, author of The Big O and a certified sex educator, says that they’ve discovered that this tiny, delicate curve is actually packed with extrasensitive nerve receptors.
Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. “That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge,” says Paget. “And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It’ll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member.”
5. His nipples
While male nipples are basically the same as female nipples, they might even be more sensitive than yours since guys aren’t used to having them touched so often. “For a lot of men, their nipples are uncharted territory—an erogenous zone they haven’t experimented with,” explains Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles–based clinical sexologist and author of the The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage. Touch them, however, and you’ll send shock waves of pleasure radiating through him, she adds.
Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inward, like an ice-cream cone but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it.
Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be.” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.
6. The head of his penis
One of the 10 erogenous spots is the head of his penis. As the most sensitive part of the penis, the head can be a fickle art to master. Barbara Keesling, PhD, and author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex, says it can be tricky to get the right level of pressure so you send him soaring into ecstasy but without recoiling in sensory overload.
Give him a lipstick blow job—aka where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand-up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing his head between them.
7. His lower back
If you’re looking for a way to turn your partner way TF up without even taking his pants off, look no further. As clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Kristie Overstreet explains, the pudendal nerve that stimulates all the areas of the groin is located here, at the bottom of the spinal cord.
Have your partner take his shirt off and lay on his stomach with his arms by his side. Hot tip: Keep his pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience. Lightly run your fingers or anxiety-ravaged cuticles down across his lower back, stopping before you hit ass cheek.
8. His earlobes
Another amazing erogenous spot is the earlobe. To be honest, this is totally an underrated sensitive little pocket of skin you’re probably neglecting during your normal hookups —just think about how jumpy you get when someone whispers in your ear!
Overstreet suggests kissing your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this, and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.
9. The front of his neck
I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous spot, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
Give him a throat job—no, not like that, (you can re-hinge your jaw now.) Have him lie on his back and literally just suck his Adam’s apple. Keep your tongue flat and light, not too much pressure! Massage the area with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid.
10. His butt cheek
Of the 10 erogenous spots, this is my best; the butt cheek. Ah, the “sweet spot” of the bod. “He’s going to be extra sensitive here,” says Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. “Striking his butt cheek, even lightly, tends to stimulate the whole area.” Think of it like a slow vibration flowing through his insides.
If your man is open to a little spank-y play, this is great to do while he’s on top of you in any variation of missionary. Squeeze his booty when he’s hitting just the right spot, or give him a quick spank if you’re both into it. “Don’t be afraid to grab or stroke there,” says Queen.
So ladies, which of these you have tried out and how did your man react? Guys, which of these gets you turned on the most? And did we leave anyone out? Let us know in the comment section.